Best ways to stop Toddler from hitting Other Siblings

The fight of siblings is a common part of every household, however, if your younger child is used to the habit of hitting other siblings, it is an alarming sign. According to the research, the toddler's frontal cortex is not developed yet that is why their emotions usually overpower their ability to judge and comprehend the situation and without realizing that "hitting hurts." Most toddlers cannot express themselves verbally in a better way and they get frustrated. But parents can ensure that the other children feel safe in their own house and can play their role rather than letting the children lose control of the emotions. The best way is to tell your child that hitting hurts and one should not hit anybody in any case.

 If you really want to change the aggressive behavior of your child, find out the reasons why they act in such a manner and try to address it. Child psychologists are of the view that every kid experiences some kind of issue and they end up acting in an irrational manner. In this regard, parents can help their children by carefully examining their change in behavior that indicates problematic areas.

Connection with the older sibling
The toddlers mostly seem interested in getting the attention of the older siblings and they find odd ways of doing it. For example, in order to get the attention of the sibling, toddler may try to disturb the older sibling or may distract the sibling from doing homework. Parent can guide the toddler in connecting with older siblings in a constructive way instead of hitting her/him. Tell the toddler to convey her sister/ brother that you want to play rather than losing control of the emotions.

Though it is not the responsibility of older siblings to play with the younger child, however, if the older siblings are considerate and you encourage them to have good relation with the younger siblings, spending time with them can help. Parents can help older kid by giving them a safe place to work on their projects without the presence of the toddler. You can coach older siblings in terms of diverting the toddler or by providing them the option to drive the power wheel. This does not mean that toddlers can be left unsupervised, it is best if the older siblings can baby sit them. Parents can also stay there to offer help to older siblings, in addition to facilitating the process of reconnection.

The toddler wants what the older sibling has
Parents can teach basic social skills to toddler by introducing them to family rules. For instance, if older siblings are playing with the toy car, the toddler is supposed to ask in a polite manner to let him/her play too. The older brother may not want to play with the car; therefore, it should not be forced on them either. It is important for the toddler to learn patience which is helpful for the life. Similarly, you can make it clear that hitting or violence will not be acceptable in the house.


When you see both of children are upset with each other, put your arm around both kids and ask them to fix it or help them mediate it. If you were not there when your children fought, you could say: I am sorry I was not there to help you, how can help you now? Moreover, the best way to handle the situation is to understand the side of the older sibling and the toddler. Similarly, statements like: I am sorry it must be hurting you and it is painful for you can help to contain the situation. Parents can guide toddler by helping them deal with emotional control. In addition, if you have not been paying attention, you can plan family time to sort the differences.

Toddlers have strong emotions, in addition to having vibrant personalities. If your toddler is unhappy and angry all the time, that means you need to help the toddler. In some cases, the toddler may be physically uncomfortable and you can figure out by observing the behavior of the child. Your child may be sensitive and unable to express the suppressed feelings and it comes out in form of anger or violence on older siblings. Parents can use the preventive measure like empathy, connection, laughter, and emotion coaching to assist the toddler to deal with suppressed feelings in the better way.

Jealous of the parent's interactions with the older sibling

Children want to have the regular one on one time with each parent without the presence of other siblings around. If you sense that, your toddler can be jealous of your relationship with the older sibling. In that case, try to focus on connecting with the toddler. You can spend more time every day to get close to the toddler. Parents can become playful by engaging them in physical activity that will make the toddler laugh and releases the oxytocin also known as the bonding hormone. Before giving time to your older child, for example, help them with home task. Furthermore, display of affection can also give a strong sense of security to the young children.

The toddler just wants to be heard
Sometimes toddlers become used to force in order to get what he/she wants. Parents can teach the toddler to control his/her behavior by introducing them to techniques of patience. Though parents cannot stay with toddler to train them in dealing with aggressive behavior, however if you make them self-sufficient, the problems can be managed.

To conclude, one can say that parents can help both the toddler and older siblings to develop a strong bond without getting into a fight with each other. The toddlers are relatively impatient, but you can train them by developing the social skills, by giving the power to control his/her emotions in the better way. All children want is your undivided attention and if he/she is not getting it, some of the disturbed children can resort to force or violence. But Parents can curb this habit by applying right strategies.